We're often happy if things go as well as planned, and mad or disappointed when things don't. However, few people are capable of happiness in many situations, by looking at the positive side. For example, they can say to themselves that, I will try harder the next time, when they encounter a situation that they didn't get employed, or selected. But some people just can't, they are restricted in their little circle of unhappiness and are prone to be inside for a very long time.
So that's why scientists are doing their researches on the subject of Happiness, to study and help the miserable people to get out of their desperation faster. Psychologists have the most methods about this topic, for that's what they do for a living. First they soothe the mind of the patients, tell them a story and gradually lead them out of despair.
The point of fast happiness instead of long sadness is to have a distraction, or to think in another angle. This reminded me that my Japanese teacher flunked me last semester and I was so unhappy and mad. I felt unfair and tried many times to reason with her, but that just couldn't change my grade and the fact. At last I gave up and sulked all day in my dorm room, talking to my classmates and friends about how "vicious" my Japanese teacher is, how she was a villain and treated me unequally. Most of my friends just nod back in approval telling me the same thing: Yeah, it's really unfair; or saying that, She shouldn't have flunked you! I was much more angrier than the earlier state.
At last a friend of mine spoke the truth and pointed it out directly in my face: Bro, you should have worked harder...
That struck me like lightening, yeah, I should have worked harder myself, who am I to blame for the grade?
As soon as I think from a different angle, my mood totally changed and I was no longer in misery, for I've learned to accept the truth, and be happy once again.
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